Oh my, oh my the guilt I don’t discuss this much, there many sides of guilt. I struggle with all those sides. Very different in each loss I’ve experienced. When my dad passed away, I felt so guilty to keep going and I felt guilty of all that I hadn’t done (and I don’t really Read more
You may be thinking – what do you mean there are choices in grief? There is no choice….. There is no choice of losing what you cannot replace.. absolutely. But in my core beliefs about loss and grief, grief is the reaction to loss. Grief is the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual reaction when you’ve lost Read more
Wow, we made it through Thanksgiving. Am I supposed to voice that? I get scared to even voice this actually. I think as someone who helps others through grief as a tool and resource and offers alternative tools and resources – am I allowed to State this? Well I am. The holidays are hard. I Read more
When I first lost my dad I had this mixture of emotions and feelings from one moment to the next. I would have problems being able to breathe! Then, when I lost my daughter Chloe I started to have so many feelings and by the time my mom passed away, I was feeling every feeling Read more
Today I sat for a long while – I was thinking about my life, where I’ve gone & now where I’m going today. I’ve always struggled with loss, abandonment, and grief. I’ve always been afraid of being alone. Yet what I realize is that I am the only one who can get on my knees Read more
Yes, you read the title of this blog post correctly. There is absolutely no closure in grief. Now, I’m going to explain, stay with me throughout this blog post… The Grief is always there. The definition of “closure” is resolve and/or conclusion. The foundation of all grief is loss and with loss, there’s never resolve Read more
Often on social media – I will see so many different posts, discussing “how to grieve “ or “how to get over the loss”. These titles make me not only laugh but also indurate me at the same time. This is someone’s view and version of what they believe grief is. Honestly as a grief Read more
As I stare at my screen, I roll my eyes in sarcasm. Really, what could possibly be good about today? Most of my heart is missing. My daughter Chloe isn’t here to ask to bake cookies with me. There is no good in today. I then walk away from my screen and I go into Read more
As I attempted to write this blog post for the last week (yup, a whole week) I come to the screen and my mind goes blank. Gratitude. Well I can write all day every day about how grateful I am for my life. Grief… well I do actually speak and write about this topic all Read more
I write this blog with so many emotions… I can’t believe we (yes I have an amazing VA that helps me with the technical components of After Chloe) have blogged for 31 Days in a row! I’m in awe and actually a bit sad that #31dayslivingafterloss is coming to an end. Have you signed up Read more
